Monday, May 23, 2011

One Month of Waiting

I haven't been watching the clock tick for a month, but I realized today that it we have been waiting for one month now.  We still feel a lot of peace about it.  I feel like I should feel a little more anxious (or something), but God is granting us a peace that surpasses all understanding.

I do occasionally go look at all of the waiting families on our agency's site.  Today I decided to run some stats.

Out of 238 waiting families:
  • 26% are open to Biracial babies (Caucasian & African American)
  • 21.4% are open to Hispanic babies
  • 20.6% are open to all races (meaning a child of multiple races - Caucasian, African American, Native American, Hispanic, & Asian)
  • 17.6% are open to African American babies
  • 16.8% are open to Native American babies
  • 3.8% are in the same situation as we are (Open to any race, Christian, Caucasian themselves, and have one child)
The stats are interesting to me.  I cannot judge what determines a family's openness.  I understand that many people want a child to look like them.  I get that.  When we entered this adoption journey, we not only wanted to grow our family, but we also wanted to provide a loving home for any baby who needed it.  The process is not easy and we had to make a lot of choices about what we could or couldn't handle.  We knew that race was not one of those issues.  For what it's worth, I do understand the low percentage in regard to Native American babies.  The laws about Native American adoptions are a bit intimidating, but in the end we decided to be open to any race.

I know that some people who are already in transracial adoptions may read my blog and think that I am naive about all of the intricacies of transracial adoption.  They may be right, but we are willing to face any issues that may arise with love and respect.

I came across this video on Dr. Wayne Dyer's facebook page.  I heard him speak in January and I was so moved.  He is inspirational.   This video encompasses how I feel about people.  There are still times when our differences are apparent and need to be addressed, but we are all ONE.  We are all the human race.


  1. 2 months and waiting here with AA. We are in the traditional program.

    I noticed you said you live nearby the AA office. We do as well. If you'd like to chat sometime that would be nice. I dont know anyone whos adopted a child, or in the process of adopting. So it would be nice to have a "in real life" friend! Let me know what you think.

  2. Rach-
    I would love to chat. I have several friends who have adopted (some from American Adoptions), but it is always great to meet someone else. I think I've seen your profile online.

  3. Well, I know we aren't seasoned veterans in the transracial adoption world - but I don't think you are naive about it. Praying for your family and for your baby's first mother.

  4. Thanks Katie. Your prayers are much appreciated.